The theme of this month’s blog posts are centered around embracing my failures in running a business. This is something we don’t talk enough about openly, and my hope is that in sharing some of my own failures, it will help you have more room to acknowledge and share your own, so that we can all continue to learn and grow from each other’s experiences.
Several years ago, I had launched my Three Hats coaching business and was more successful on paper then I had ever been. I was coaching with businesses around the world, and fulfilling one of my dreams in traveling to Guyana, Australia, South Africa, the UK, and throughout the US leading trainings and workshops. I was working harder than I’ve ever worked.
I was driven to build and scale beyond myself, the very things that I had coached others to do. I worked until late hours in the night and was driven to just keep growing and growing.
What I didn’t realize is that I had fallen into one of my patterns of just doing, but losing connection of WHY I was doing it in the first place. I can get so into a groove and work hard, but lose track of the bigger WHY, and sometimes forget to have fun and enjoy my life.
And this was noticeable to those around me before I was aware of it. I was spread too thin, trying to fill courses halfway around the world in Australia without much local support or connections, and a mentor who I was working with finally got through to me:
“Hey Rick, you are doing really well, making more sales than you’ve ever made, helping more people than you’ve helped. So why are you not happy?”
It didn’t occur to me that I wasn’t happy, or at least I didn’t want to acknowledge this. And her words hit me right in the chest as I felt the truth of my experience. Having someone outside of me “get my world,” was critical and I could finally give myself permission to feel my unhealthy drive that had gone off-track.
I spent the next few months slowing down, making better choices, and getting more clear as to what I really want to do and WHY. I started saying No to opportunities and got more choosy in who I worked with. I realized that I need to re-evaluate my WHY every so often because the WHY changes, depending on where I am at in my life.
I’ve embraced that one of my flaws is to stay busy and keep going, and when I get in this mode, it’s a good indicator that there is something that I’m not slowing down to feel.
And the busyness doesn’t make the emptiness or unhappiness underneath go away.
Slowing down is the most important thing I can do to reconnect with myself and the motivation behind my actions. And when I’m connected to what and WHY I’m doing what I’m doing, I am happy and at peace, and that’s worth more to me than whatever achievements I make on paper.
If you can relate or have your own symptoms that tell you when you are off-track, I’d love to hear them! The more we can get aware and talk about these things, the more choice we have in these moments to create a different outcome.
Stay tuned for the rest of our series as we’ll explore embracing failures. In the meantime, you can view part two of the video series via my Facebook. For more information on how to turn your biggest breakdowns into breakthroughs, contact us at [email protected]